Don’t get us wrong, we totally get the appeal of the whole “new year, new me” thing. But the holiday season is stressful enough without adding extra pressures on ourselves. So if you’ve been trying to decide on the best resolutions to make this year, we have a radical idea for you: don’t.
The reason many New Years resolutions fail is because we get excited at the beginning of the year and set unrealistic goals by trying to change too many things at once. When that doesn’t work, we beat ourselves up about it. What if instead of being hard on ourselves, we congratulate ourselves on just who we are today? Because we are enough.
The most effective way to implement a lifestyle change is by changing small things one at a time. Yes, a new year is exciting and brimming with possibilities, but if you adopt that attitude every day, you’ll give your brain the message that you have multiple chances to succeed, not just on January 1st. Set your intention every day and visualize it, because 24 hours at a time is a simple way to approach changes.
We will then begin to create new habits- a different way of living that will bring new results.
A few important things to remember when establishing a new habit:
- Showing up is half the battle. If you’re anything like we are, procrastination is a big issue. We will give excuses and find reasons not to start something all day. But if your goal is to write more, take more photos, etc., set aside just 15 minutes in your day to practice. These concentrated blocks of time may even produce some of your best work.
- Make an appointment with yourself. Set aside a specific block of time—no matter how short—to work on your goal/craft and treat it like any important appointment.
- Be patient with yourself. Important things take time, but remember to have fun and not take yourself too seriously along the way. There is a reason you’re doing this and it will be worthwhile.
The bottom line is, if you can set a little time consistently to show up and practice, and be compassionate with yourself when you make mistakes, you are going to do just fine.